I'm fortunate enough to have a dear friend on the east coast who travels as much as I do for work- even more on average. This means we get frequent phone calls as I drive to work and she's driving for work. I have to say. Those 20 minutes on my way to work are so amazing. We laugh and joke and share stories of our lives as though I am right there next to her and not 3000 miles away.
Today we got an extra special catch up and were able to talk for almost 2 hours as we both drove around for our jobs. And we had quite the conversation.
We are both unhappy with our careers/jobs and are both having the same frustrations.
I've been reprimanded a lot for being blunt and to the point. It's being perceived as "Challenging Authority" and "Snotty". I have been working so incredibly hard to watch my phrasing and just butter things up so they don't come across so "harsh". But the bottom line is- East Coast way of life runs deep in my veins. And 9 times out of 10 I wind up in another lecture about how I need to not argue my opinion and be open to others and conform to work with different personalities while no one recognizes my differences.
My friend- bless her soul- pointed out a very valuable thing to me.
It isn't that I am challenging authority or questioning my bosses authority. I've been raised in a generation to question things I don't understand and to not conform and to find more efficient better ways to do things.
Essentially we both agreed that Corporate America is killing what we have been taught for the last 12 years. Corporate America doesn't want ideas. They don't want their processes questioned. They want conformists and people who just sit down, shut up, and do their job without any second guessing.
But I am not that girl and my job is slowing killing me getting me to completely change every instinct in my being to not do what I was taught to do my whole life. I spent thousands of dollars on a degree that challenged me and forced me to use my opinion, creative genius, and to question. Only now to be reprimanded multiple times a day for doing so.
This generation gap at work is a first for me. I've never been met with so much resistance. And I've never been met with so many people who get their panties in a twist over me being straight and to the point over something. I don't understand the point in picking roses to make someone feel better about you telling them they don't agree. Or confronting them with an issue. That wastes time and just makes a mockery of me and the other person. I'm not rude or condescending. I'm just direct. I don't mean to be hurtful. But the directness is in my bones.
What else am I supposed to do?
Lately I've been just doing the job. Not questioning things and not putting up a fight. It's easier to get through the day than being reprimanded on multiple occasions. It's easier to try my best to conform. But I hate myself for it. But I had to chose. Crying every day after work over being reprimanded for doing what I've been trained to do. Or just hating the hours I clock in. And I chose just hating the hours that I am at work and in the office.
So I ask you, what would YOU do in my situation?